This is the story of my life: I am not a
loose woman.
I am just a woman who loves her husband very much and didn’t want to
lose him. I just did what I had to do to save my marriage even though I
feel guilty sometimes. It was not easy but I slept with my driver so
that I could give my husband a child, but instead, God gave me twins, a
boy and a girl.
I was married to Philip for eight years. We had no child. “The worst was that I never got pregnant even for a day.” His
mother
became so impatient that she started breathing down my neck as she gave
me no breathing space at all. She moved in to live with us and
practically made my life unbearable – in my matrimonial home.
I cannot drink water and drop the cup because she must insult me. It got to a point that she stopped eating my
food because, according to her, I should be feeding my children so that they would grow healthy and stronger and not her. “Monica,
if you had children, you are supposed to be feeding them with all these
food so that they would grow healthy and strong. I am getting old so I
don’t need all these nonsense you call food. Take them away and give me
grandchildren,” she would scream.
Even after she had left, I could still hear those insults in my head so I
decided to take a bold step – I seduced and slept with our driver...
Before then, my mother-in-law also stopped talking to me, however, the
only time she talks to me is when she wants to insult me and remind me
of how less a woman I was.
Philip and I
love
each other so much that he stood by me despite all his mother did or
said to frustrate me to leave him. We visited different specialists and
they all certified us medically alright. I have visited churches, held
vigils and even fasted for days, drank various concoctions of varied
colours and combinations all in the name of getting pregnant so that my
mother-in-law can stop humiliating me yet I couldn’t get pregnant.
At a point, I stopped coming out of my bedroom because it was obvious my
mother-in-law had vowed to frustrate me out of her son’s
home.
Most times, I just stayed in my bedroom and either cries, pray, think
and then sleep off because I was scared of his mother confronting me. To
make things worse, she sent away the house help because she said, “You
don’t need any house help because there are no children to take care of.
Take care of your house yourself and stop wasting my son’s hard earned
money.”
It was just the three of us
living at home,
“God, I was always so terrified even when I hear her voice from a
distance.” It is so agonizing to say this but my husband usually pleads
with me to come out of the room and this makes him feel so sad
especially those times I refuse because I don’t want to come
face-to-face with his mother. When her troubles became too unbearable,
Philip practically threw her out of the house just to make me feel safe
and comfortable in my own home.
Okon is a young man in his late 20’s. He is a graduate of
Mechanical Engineering
but because he could not get a good paying job, he opted to become a
driver. I promised to get him a good job if he sleeps with me just once
but I never disclosed the reason for this. However, Okon thought I just
wanted to cheat on my husband with him. I planned it during my ovulation
so that I could get pregnant, although it was not easy sleeping with
another man. I knew I was betraying my husband but I saw it as a
necessary action. After a month, I discovered that I was pregnant. So,
as promised I got a job for Okon in a friend’s company where he started
earning almost N150,000 per month. When I told Philip that I was
pregnant, he was so excited. “Sweetheart, God has finally answered our prayers. I am pregnant,” I revealed.
When I was five months pregnant, he informed his mother and she
immediately returned to the house. She pampered me like a baby and also
took good care of me. I never wanted to do any scan but my mother-in-law
insisted. When I finally did the scan, it showed I was
pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl. My mother- in-law and husband were extremely happy while I felt much fulfilled. “God thank you for compensating me with a set of twins after eight years of barrenness,” I muttered.
When the twins were born, the girl took ill for some time. It took a
while before she fully recovered after several treatments and this got
me worried. Philip and I insisted that blood
test
be carried out on them to determine their blood group and genotype and
then came the shocking revelation. The doctor informed us that although
their blood groups are both A, however, their genotypes are AS for the
girl and AA for the boy meanwhile Philip and I are both AA. I wanted the
ground to open and swallow me up because I felt Philip would ask
questions but to my surprise, he did not. He just said, “Sweetheart,
lets go home. We have had quite a long day, you and my babies need to
rest.”
Three months later, he held me closely and said:
“Monica, don’t be scared. I don’t want to
know who the father of the twins is. I know whatever you did, you did to
save our marriage and I am very proud of you. I promise to
always love you and my babies. I promise this will be a secret between
us. I love you sweetheart. I know we will have our own children
someday.” I wept as he wiped my tears with his hands.
I know what I did was wrong but at least my mother-in-law is extremely
happy with me, that is all that matters. Although, everyone is happy but
I feel guilty that I selfishly used an innocent man to achieve my aim.
But before anybody judge me; just put yourself in my shoes and think for
a moment what you will do?
- Monica
